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Soothe Your Shyness – 7 Tips
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Shy people instinctively know they are missing out. Shyness equals lost opportunities, less pleasure, and fewer social connections. Shyness can be crippling…but there are tried and tested ways to make it a thing of the past.
The formula for shyness is “too much focus on the self” plus anxiety. To make it even more unpleasant, sometimes when you are feeling shy, you experience physical sensations which “hijack” your calm, logical self.
How Shyness is Developed and Maintained:
Shyness is really a combination of social anxiety and social conditioning. To overcome shyness, you need to learn to relax socially. This enables you to direct your attention away from yourself and gives you the space to practice certain conversational skills. In most cases, the heightened emotions of socializing when young simply conditions the sufferer to respond to social events with fear, instead of excitement and pleasure.
Relaxed socializing is an advantage denied to many until they learn how to relax. To start reducing your own shyness, I want you to absorb the following tips and ideas and start to put them into practice:
7 Tips to Soothe Shyness:
- Think about the way you feel and behave around familiar people you are comfortable and spontaneous around. It’s that feeling transferred to new people and situations that equates to your emerging social confidence.
- Focus your attention away from yourself. Sure, you can think a little bit about how you are coming across, but if all your focus is on your own words and feelings then you might as well be by yourself. Notice what other people are wearing and make a mental note, listen to their conversation, imagine where they might live, make a point of remembering names. Not only does this give you more to talk about, it also “dilutes” social anxiety leaving you feeling calmer.
- Ask people open questions. Many people like to talk about themselves and will find you interesting if you find them interesting. Ask questions that require more than a yes/no response such as, “What do you like about this place?” rather than, “Do you like this place?” Once they’ve answered, use “add-on” questions connected to the first one, such as: “‘What other places do you like in this city?” Next you can express your views. This is a great way to get the conversation going. If the conversation doesn’t “take,” then no matter, you’ve done your bit.
- Stop trusting your imagination so much! Have you ever had an imaginary picture in your mind of a holiday destination only to arrive and find the reality is different from the way you had imagined? That’s how reliable imagination is. Stop imagining what others think. I’ve long since stopped trying to second guess what others think of me – it’s just too painful. Besides, what a person thinks about you has a lot more to do with who they are than who you are.
- Stop using “all or nothing” thinking. The “completely this/completely that” style of thought occurs when you are emotional. People who are depressed, angry, or anxious see reality in terms of differing extremes, simplistic all or nothing terms. An angry person is “right” and you are “‘wrong”; the depressed person feels like a “failure” while others are “successful.”. In reality, life is composed of infinite gray areas. So stop fearing that you might say the “wrong” thing! Or, that people will “hate” you. Once you start to relax more socially, you’ll notice much less black and white thinking because anxiety actually causes you to think in all or nothing terms.
- Take your time. You don’t have to blurt things out. Ask questions and if questions are asked of you, take time to consider your response (within reason). Don’t just blurt out what you think might be the “‘right” answer. A slow answer is a relaxed answer.
- Finally, use hypnotic rehearsal. Hypnosis is the quickest way to change your instinctive/emotional response to any situation. Only think about meeting others when your mind and body is relaxed. This conditions you to associate relaxation with being around new people. In fact, you’ll find that when you relax deeply enough often enough while hypnotically rehearsing being comfortable around others, you’ll reach the point where you just can’t be shy any more! This is what I call a “‘happy inability!”
WHERE TO GO FROM HERE:
Overcome shyness now at HypnosisDownloads.com.Article by Mark Tyrrell of Hypnosis Downloads.com.
Anxiety in Children: School Anxiety
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Does Your Child Have School Anxiety?
As parents, your natural instinct is to soothe your child’s fears. This has been your job from day one. So it is very disturbing when your child suffers from school anxiety. You would do anything to make your child feel better, if only you knew what to do.
Anxiety is a normal part of being a child. Nearly every child is afraid of something at some point. But when a child starts to dread everyday situations like school, due to fear, this is not the norm. This is a phobia.
School Anxiety in Children
A child often doesn’t have the words to describe what is happening to him or her when they’re feeling anxious. Therefore, as parents and caregivers, it is important to identify the signs and symptoms the child is exhibiting.
A young child with school anxiety may complain of stomach aches or feeling sick in the morning. They may have trouble sleeping at night. They may frequent the nurse’s office with vague symptoms. They may cry and beg to stay home.
Older children may feign illness in order to stay home. They may cut classes where they feel vulnerable, such as a public speaking or theater class, where they have to perform in front of peers.
If a child’s school anxiety goes unrecognized and is left untreated, the symptoms may worsen and be much more difficult to handle. The anxiety may begin to interfere with the child’s relationships and other social development. Read More→
Fertility Yoga – By Tania Tod
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Fertility yoga brings many benefits to people of all ages and all levels of physical ability, across the globe. Because yoga exercises the mind, body and spirit alike, it can be described as the most complete work-out possible. For women who are trying to conceive, fertility yoga offers unique advantages.
When you are trying to get pregnant with your first baby, your life is undergoing a wide range of exciting changes, and you are moving to the next stage of adulthood. Most women experience their decision to try for a baby, and the process of trying to conceive itself, as a joyous one. Nonetheless, trying to conceive a baby can be very stressful too. Not just because women who are trying for their first baby are taking a step into the unknown, but also because there can be a lot of pressure to get pregnant quickly.
If you have been using an ovulation calendar and ovulation predictor kits to get pregnant, or are charting to conceive, I am sure you know what I am talking about! Many couples feel that their intimate times together, which used to relieve stress, have turned into a chore, and something that has to be timed carefully to increase the likelihood of pregnancy. Perhaps this is the main reason why couples who are hoping for a baby experience a high level of tensions. Read More→
